The Unheard Voice of Adoption

Today I want to feature the most amazing person, and most important person in the world to me. Today you are going to hear from my wife, Allison, as a guest blogger.

Allison and I want to give a voice to the countless mothers who make the greatest sacrifice any mother could ever make.

"I couldn't believe this time was actually here. I had thought about this day for a very long time, almost as much as the day I would meet Kaia. I had tried to picture it and imagine what it would be like and what I would say. We all walked into a fairly small room and all 10 birth mothers from our travel group were sitting there. We sat down and instantly tried to pick out Kaia's mom. I had three moms picked out that I thought could be a possibility. They started calling out the kids names and having the birth moms stand and adoptive families raise their hands. Birtukan (Kaia) was the third name they called and her mom was not one that I had picked out.

The silence in the room was awkward. Some of the birth moms were upset and crying. Kaia's mom, Shita, had tears streaming down her cheeks. I lost it and got out the Kleenex. I handed one of the moms who was very upset the pack to pass down to the other moms. 

After I knew who Shita was, I could definitely see Kaia in her. She looked very young and innocent. I noticed how tiny she was and how small her feet were. Here fingernails were dirty and I couldn't help but think how hard her life must be. She was beautiful. 

The families had to take turns to have their meetings and wait for translators to finish. We sat in the near silent room for what seemed like forever. We kept making eye contact with Shita and most times she would look away. At one point Michael made eye contact with her and she mouthed "thank you" and pointed her finger to the sky and looked up. She did the same with me as well. Our names were the second to last to be called. We went into a small office with Shita and a translator. We started off by telling her our names and about our boys. We gave her a photo album with some of our family pictures and all of the pictures we had received of Kaia. We showed her a picture of Evan and Noah and she smiled huge and began to kiss both of their faces. Michael told her he was a pastor and her face lit up with another smile. She told us that she believes in Jesus and sings with her church choir. 

The first question we asked her was for her to tell us about her family. She told us that her father had passed away and she lives with her mother and older siblings. And, that she attends secondary school. (She was 19) ........We asked her why she decided to relinquish Kaia for adoption. She said she had to give her up because she had nothing and no way to care for her. When we asked her what she wanted us to tell Kaia about her she said to let her know here mom and family are from Ethiopia and teach her about their culture. She asked that one day we bring her back for visit.

We asked how she wants us to raise her, and she said to LOVE JESUS and be in church.

We must have thanked her a million times and asked the translator to let her know how much we already loved Kaia and will give her a good home. Michael prayed over her and she was thankful. 

We stood up to say goodbye and she and I hugged. It is a hug that I will never forget. There were no words exchanged but yet so much. We couldn't speak each others language so the only way we could communicate was through our tight squeeze. We were both crying and held on for a long time. I tried to express all of my gratitude through that hug because it was all I had that I could give her. It is so hard to put into words, but it was almost like one mother relinquishing rights to the other......We hugged and kissed cheeks several more times. Saying goodbye and walking away was extremely hard. I knew that I would probably never see this woman again. Oh how I pray for God to watch over her. I pray He blesses her greatly for this huge sacrifice she has made."

Will you join us in praying for the moms that have made the ultimate sacrifice for their children. Will you pray God's blessings, safety, provision and love over them. Would you pray that God comforts them in the moments of sadness. Would you pray that we as God's church would step up and begin to love and serve these women who give so much to ensure the well being of the greatest gift God has ever given them. Let's give these moms a voice!